Discombobulated, but don’t judge me.

“Oh, I can’t have that. I am GLUTEN-FREE.”

God forbid I say the word. Hey its not like I am vegetarian, or even worse, vegan. But all jokes aside, abstaining from certain food seems almost unavoidable, especially on a college campus. And if you are hoping that I can lay down the law and give you the play by play on how to eat at the dinning hall, you are sorely mistaken. I’m comparing gluten-free to a bigger picture. Hopefully, you will be able take a deeper meaning away from it.

 

Dating bio 1: I like long walks on the beach. I prefer red roses. I can make you smile and cook you dinner. I give good back massages and I will play with your dog. I can’t stand being alone.

 

Dating bio 2: I love to explore and travel to adventurous places. I am a hippie at heart, but can enjoy reading a book indoors by a fire. I can cook you vegan food and decorate your house. I can’t stand the color black.

 

Dating bio 3: I love vanilla perfume and clean bathrooms. Don’t put pillows on my couch. I’ll take you to baseball games and let you meet my friends. Sometimes when I watch sports I need my space.

 

Dating bio 4: I am an artist and I crave inspiration. Don’t kill my vibe. I am a gourmet chef… sometimes mac n cheese is also gourmet. I prefer cats before dogs. I’ll let you choose the dinner and movie.

 

Which person would you choose? Take your time. Think about your date or person or whatever now while reading this. We will come back to this so don’t worry.

 

On an average day you stress over the little things.

Shoot next time I’ll study harder because (insert name) got a better grade. Unacceptable.

Oh my god, my hair is ratchet. I wish it was naturally straight. You’re so lucky your hair is simple.

Why can’t I have her closet? Like seriously…

She is so popular. Everyone loves her. Why can’t that be me?

 

Don’t compare your beginnings with someone else’s middle.

 

Now let’s take a peak at the polar opposite. Yes we think with lust and greed, but we also think with distaste and cruelty.

Dear lord, what is she wearing? Silver and gold… really? C’mon.

When I count to five that annoying girl better stop stalking.

If he didn’t wear wranglers with sneakers he’d maybe have potential.

She would drive a range rover.

 

Okay face it. We say it. Maybe not aloud, but most definitely in our head. Let’s be so proud of ourselves… after all we all know “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.” We don’t have to keep our mouths shut. However, we have to keep our minds open.

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Think back to your date/person or whatever. You’ve never even met them and I bet you had at least one doubt or one tweak you’d make for this person. Did you avoid the opposite gender? What did your date look like? Could you marry someone like that?

Trick questions. I never specified the genders. I never gave one detail about their appearance. And I surely didn’t give you a reason to spend your life with this person. You hardly even know them.

Pause… you don’t know any of them. How can you judge them?

Exactly. So when we compare ourselves to someone else or even when we compare people to others, we are constantly judging.

“you know me, but you don’t know my story.”

Laugh all you want about this sassy statement. But it is the truth.

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Comparison is the thief of joy. – Theodore Roosevelt

 

So next time that skinny chick says she can’t eat bread, don’t be quick to judge. She may be gluten intolerant or maybe she is counting her calories. Who cares? Don’t waste your time on details that are irrelevant. Let people live their lives in peace.

 

“When I look at a person, I see a person – not a rank, not a class, not a title.”

Criss Jami

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Just side note. You can use your skills to an advantage. Comparison isn’t always evil.

 

Comparison with myself brings improvement; comparison with others brings discontent. –Betty Jamie Chung

 

Study harder because you deserve a grade you are proud of.

Fix up your hair so you can feel confident.

Create new outfits so you can be comfortable in your own skin.

Be the best you can be. You can’t please everyone, so first please yourself.

There I said it, I laid down the law. Be nice. It is so easy. Be careful, but be carefree. Live freely and peacefully and hope others will do the same. You may not be able to avoid unhealthy food in the dinning hall, but you can avoid passing judgment. 

Luck of the Irish

in honor of Saint Patrick’s Day coming up.

 

Luck. Do you believe in luck? Four leaf clovers? Horseshoes? The number 7? Do you make a wish at 11:11? Kiss the ceiling and close your eyes… I don’t know. Sometimes I get the vibe that luck doesn’t follow you around if you are a believer of it. I haven’t made a wish at 11:11 in over 5 years.  I was convinced that I ever forgot to wish at 11:11 something bad would happen. So I stopped completely. Superstitious, right? I hate that word. I don’t believe in it. And now I am debating if I believe in luck. Have I had lucky guesses? Absolutely, but they are probably educated guesses to be perfectly honest. Have I experienced “luck?” Possibly. I used to be such a believer of luck, but the more I look into each of these experiences I find that these situations were just meant to be. Maybe they are miracles. I don’t know. Is it worth finding out? Should I be a believer of dumb luck? Or is it something deeper?